Tips To Help

1. If you're alone and feel like you are going to give in, then get out of there and go pray.
2. If you feel like you want to do it at night, do 3 hand stand push ups and 50 regular push ups, and 20 squats, do some pull ups if you can get to a pull up bar.
3. Putting on a Christian Song when you feel like giving in can do wonders.
4. Take a walk around the block and pray if you feel like giving in.
5. If anything comes out on T.V. or on the computer or on your phone that looks like an immodest girl, look away and put away. Go read a book or catch up on some goals. If you need to use it for goals then just take a break and do 20 push ups then open it back up and change it to what you really need to be doing.
6. Ignore any thoughts and push the thoughts away that come to your head about sexual things. Don't try to prove yourself to yourself, but instead ignore and run from it.
7. Don't let yourself speak anything sexual or anything nearing sexual or even joking around about it.
8. Write down your reason for not watching porn and have it with you in your pocket to look at when you feel like giving in, then read it out loud.
9. Realize that it gets easier over time. Just stick it out and it will get better.

day 2

It feels as though the stress in my life is piling up and I want to do it to relieve stress.
I want to do it to get rid of my anger.
To get rid of any sadness.
It seems as though I'm doing this to avoid dealing with my problems and issues.
But the temporary gratification messes with my ability to feel content in sobriety.

Day 1

Today wasn't that bad. Didn't get many sexual thoughts.
Still tempted though.

Tempted Level 4/10
The more I think about it, the more I want to do it. So I stop thinking about it, I ignore the thought(s).

Girls read this if you don't get why men like porn so much

After watching porn and masterbating. You feel relaxed, tension free, stress free. If you haven't watched porn in a week and then watch it, you feel euphoric. And I'm talking about afterward, not during. During, it's a good feeling obviously. A man who does this several times a day or even once a day does it because he can't stop. He wants to stop but can't. Therefore yes, he is addicted.

For me, it makes me feel loved. In a sick fake lustfilled way. Like a fake form of love. Kind of like when you girls watch a romance movie. It's not the real thing but it makes you feel loved.

I need the touch of a women to feel like she loves me. I also need sex from them to feel like they love me, or else I feel like my wife doesn't love me. I don't have wife, I'm just explaining what I need and what I feel. Don't dis-count sex in a marriage, both partners should abstain from masterbation and even sex at times. But they should both have sex. If you masterbate and your husband doesn't, then guess who's going to want to have sex? Guess who isn't?

I know you need to feel loved and cared for and it's hard because he watches porn but communicate, talk with your husband, tell him that both of y'all shouldn't watch porn and that you should find fulfillment in each other. Because if not then after awhile he won't need you. Or he'll think and feel like he won't, but he does in reality. Not just for sex but for a life.

But he doesn't want to stop watching porn, what should I do?

Dump his sorry ass.

Or.

Later get divorced because he cheated on you with a younger girl.

Don't get mad at me, I'm just being honest. If you don't want the truth then don't ask me.

Also, y'all don't have to always have sex. Talk to each other about it and some days abstain from sex(and of course masterbation) to take time to pray. This will help the attraction grow as well. If he doesn't last as long in bed, then find out remedies for pre mature ejaculation. There's a type of vitamin you can take, there's a soup you can make, look it up, find a way, talk about it, fight for this because if you don't then it will catch up with you(both) sooner or later.

Overview

My goal:
Is to totally live with no porn or masterbation. Rather it be through weaning off of porn or going cold turkey.

Re-hash:
I went 22 days without it and then messed up without watching porn.
Then approx. 4-7 days later messed up again. It's been around 7-14 days from that time.

Things worth mentioning during the 22 days:
-On day 19(around that day if not specifically that day/i'm guessing it was day 19) I had a sexual dream where I had sex. For some reason it is always with an attractive mexican girl. Different ages. In the past it was with a Mexican girl around 26 years old, medium build, like a model. This time is was with a girl around 19 years of age and she was really enjoying herself. I went 3 times in the dream, and when I woke up, there was stuff all over my pants, I had to change before everyone else woke up(I was on a missions trip).
-It was less difficult the more I focused on other things I had to do. The more goals, prayer focus, etc. I had forgotten about the whole porn dilemma.

Information:
I have just turned 23 years old.
Male.
I would put more information but I don't want anyone in my family or friends to know it is me who is posting.
I have not kept track of my last record though I assume it to be between 1-8 months.

Reason:
For God.
For my future wife.
For a healthier spirit, mind, and heart.
For those around me, to be a good example to them.
For a more productive life.
For the sake of research because there hasn't been any research conducted online about this, and I would like to help others as it is a challenging and scary process and there are a lot of things that might be grey areas. So they can read this and know that it is possible to go without porn and masterbation.

Other notes:
This is based on my own convictions, for those who aren't religious(a.k.a. being in love with God/real religion) then chew the meat and spit out the bones, take what you can for your own studies and research purposes.
Please, if you are religious, pray for me.